No Regrets

What does it mean to have no regrets? To really not regret anything? What is in the past, is in the past. There is nothing you or I can do to change it. People say the past does not matter, they must be trippin’. The past matters a great deal. My past has shaped the man I am today. Accept your past, good or bad. Make decisions in this moment you will not hate yourself for in the next moment. Dwelling will only bring bitterness and clouded judgement. Let wounds heal. The best way I see to live with no regrets, is make decisions today I know I will not hate myself for tomorrow. I am a flame setting the world on fya til the day I die. Mistakes happen, learn from them and move forward. Avoid similar mistakes now. I believe in you. Be true to yourself. Listen to that still, small voice deep inside when you have a choice before you.

“Live life like there is no tomorrow”, right? Why? Chances are, you will wake up tomorrow. Even if you do not, why make decisions you know hurt your tomorrow, tonight? Live life like you will not have another chance to share real love with anyone again. Live like you want your tomorrow to be amazing. Live life like you want to make those you care about know you care about them and want them to be proud of you. Like you want to be proud of yourself. Live life like everyone is watching. I am not living for today, I am living for my future. Keep the end goal in sight and you may truly have no regrets. One of my favorite artists, Lecrae says it pretty well in his song, “No Regrets” from his album, Gravity. Here’s a link to the vid on YouTube…https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b9AFKQaW3Jc
Go check it out, maybe buy the song or album on itunes here…https://itunes.apple.com/us/album/no-regrets-feat.-suzy-rock/id555647726?i=555647952…after listening, answer this question in the comments below and share this post to see what your friends think about living with no regrets

What does living with no regrets mean to you?

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Rest

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              What have I learned from not sleeping the last two days? Well, besides how soft my amazing bed feels after not touching it for 48 hours, I have learned to appreciate and take advantage of opportunities to rest whenever possible. Cherish the peaceful moment when your head floats down to your pillow and that first cool burst of comfort washes over you. You never know, you may not be able to rest again for awhile. Enjoy it. Resting is healing.

Psalms 55:6 And I say, “Oh, that I had wings like a dove!  I would fly away and be at rest 

To cease running, to cease fighting, to cease laughing, to cease crying, to cease pain, to feel peace.

Isaiah 14:3-4 When the LORD has given you rest from your pain and turmoil and the hard service with which you were made to serve, you will take up this taunt against the king of Babylon: ”How the oppressor has ceased, the insolent fury ceased!

Hush friends, from toil, from strife, from exhaustion. Hush and enjoy rest.

Jeremiah 6:16 Thus says the LORD:”Stand by the roads, and look, and ask for the ancient paths, where the good way is; and walk in it, and find rest for your souls.  But they said, ‘We will not walk in it.’ 

Choose to rest.

Matthew 11:28-29 “…Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” 

I am going to bed. Goodnight…nope, it would seem 4am is time to say good morning 😉

 

Work

Most of the time, I despise work. Homework, job work, all of it. But why? Why do I despise work when, after completing something, I feel such a rush and sense of accomplishment. I noticed that usually it is thoughts of, “I have time to do this later.” Then later comes and whatever it is, lies unfinished still. I realized I have had the wrong attitude. Whatever else I am doing, can be done later. There is time for all the things I want to do AFTER handling my responsibilities. I have not had a heart for my work for one reason or other, outside excuses causing inside problems. Unacceptable.

Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as though working for the Lord, not for men. -Colossians 3:23

 

Even if you are not a believer of the Word, you can see the merit in having the proper motivation. Whatever you do, do it for the right reasons, and you will do it right 🙂

Laziness is unacceptable in myself. Proverbs 13:4 – The soul of the sluggard craves and gets nothing, while the soul of the diligent will be richly supplied. Truth. If you say you want something, and do nothing, you will receive nothing. Bottom line is, when you want something bad enough, REALLY want it, you will work hard to get it and when you do, you will overflow with joy and praise. The person I damage more than anyone else when I am lazy and procrastinate is myself. Whoever is slack in his work is a brother to him who destroys. – Proverbs 18:9 More truth. What happens when I do not work? Things get destroyed, fall apart, crumble, implode and outright fail. Anywhere! Jobs, relationships, school, families, friends, marriages, all of life takes work. This does not mean you cannot enjoy life and you must work all the time or die. It means just the opposite! Take heart my friends! To be diligent means to receive a better quality of life you may thoroughly enjoy! When you have things to be proud of, you will look at life differently. Feeling depressed? Set a small goal for yourself and look at the impact it has on your outlook when you reach it! Relationship trouble? Set a goal for both of you to work towards (usually better communication in some form) and fight for it. Whatever your goal, you can get there if you fight for it. Never stop fighting. Never stop working towards your dream no matter how big or small it seems. No matter how impossible it looks. When you give up is the only time you truly fail.

Enjoy the drive to your desire!

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Be the one you seek

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I want a Proverbs 31 Woman. For anyone who doesn’t know what that means, she is amazing.

           Proverbs 31 describes a woman like this, “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls. She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night. In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers. She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy. When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet. She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple. Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes. She is clothed with strength sand dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her. Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all. Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Give her the reward she has earned, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.”

             Men, let me tell you, if you find yourself a lady like this, cherish her. Ladies, strive to be this woman full of hope, compassion, gentleness, passion, strength, integrity, patience, peace, and all the other virtues. Above all seek God in your decisions. Especially in choosing a husband, or even someone you may be interested in dating. 

             Last night, I heard some wisdom on the subject of relationships. “Be the person you are seeking.” That resonated deep within me. I cannot expect to find someone amazing if I myself am not striving to be someone worth being with! You may have noticed I highlighted a couple of words in green up there about husbands. I love the color green 🙂 Anyway, it says, “her husband is respected at the city gate.” Men, if you want to be respected, act respectable. Do not go pick fights and get drunk and high and throw yourself at every floozy who walks by. HOLD YOURSELF ACCOUNTABLE. Surround yourself with friends who will help hold you accountable. Stay away from porn, it rots your soul and hurts her. It is cheating when you commit acts with those 2D women on your screen, do not be fooled into thinking it isn’t. Women are beautiful, delicate (in a good way, not weak, so do not think of them as weak) passionate creatures and as REAL MEN it is our duty to respect them and cherish them. Take care of yourself fellas, fix your hair, shave your face, work out, eat good food, make yourself appealing to her if you want her to be appealing for you, and trim up whatever other “unruly” hair you may have if you expect your lady to do the same. “Her husband…praises her” PRAISES HER! Do we even know how to do that anymore??? It is very simple lads, SHOW HER HOW AMAZING SHE IS. She is worth more than rubies, Rubies man! Rubies are expensive…That woman you may be unappreciative of is the most important gift you have ever been given. Treat her as such. Put down your video games and look in her eyes when she speaks, respond after careful consideration of your words. Tell her what she means to you every chance you get. REMEMBER, words are meaningless if you are not backing them up with action. Don’t you ever tell her you love her to get in her pants. Don’t ever say I love you and flirt with other ladies who also deserve better than that. Don’t say she is important and ignore her, her needs or wants or desires, and do not ever, EVER raise your hands to her in violence. If you are fortunate enough to keep her around long enough to get married, REMEMBER Proverbs 18:22, “He who finds a wife finds a treasure, and obtains favor from the Lord.” Never stop doing the little things.

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           Be the person you are searching for. Ladies, take care of yourselves. Do not seek the beds or arms of men who are not your one and only, and to save yourself, do not seek the arms of men whom you are not their one and only. Take care of your body, work out, eat good food, make yourself appealing to him. NOT slutty. Dress modestly. You can look sexy and still be a lady. HOLD YOURSELF ACCOUNTABLE. Surround yourself with friends you can trust to hold you accountable as well. The porn thing goes for you also, ladies. 

          I am not going to get into sex in this writing, maybe next time. -Though briefly, I believe we should wait because SEX is a beautiful gift from God for our marriages where we may know and enjoy each other completely in physicality without reservation, shame or fear of rejection. That is the sex I want to have with my wife someday.- Friends with benefits do not want to cherish you. If they did, they would not say they are your friend and act like they are not. Those men and women are looking only for physical and emotional comfort without wanting to be invested with you and will always make you feel ashamed and hurt eventually. Protect your heart. Look for a man who will protect your heart. Look for a man who will protect your body. Look for a woman who will protect your heart and body. If he is unwilling to wait for you, then chances are, he will be unwilling to wait to get home to you when he is tempted by another. Same for her. I do not want to be that kind of man. I want a woman who seeks only my arms for comfort and to feel wanted and loved (aside from seeking the Lord first) BE THE ONE YOU SEARCH FOR. If you have cheated in the past, or your lady has, do not listen when people say “Once a cheater, always a cheater“. That statement is one of the dumbest I have ever heard. People can absolutely change. BUT, it is a choice. We always have a choice between doing what is right, or doing what may please us in that moment. Going deeper, God can change the heart of anyone, no matter how lost or “bad” they may seem, but He allows us to choose. He will never override our free will. CHANGE IS A CHOICE.Whether you have faith in the Lord or not, that is an undeniable truth. Without choosing to change and commitment to that choice, there can be no permanent change. Just so you know, if they refuse to change from cheating, you can refuse to stay.

I have made many mistakes, all of which I know how to avoid now because I have regretted them, remembered them, understood my motivations for the mistakes and I take different paths to stay away from the pits I have fallen into before.

           More wisdom I heard last night: MAKE A LIST OF WHAT YOU WANT. You may have heard the saying, “Those who stand for nothing, will fall for anything.” This is absolute truth in every aspect of life. Especially relationships and integrity. Concerning integrity, do not be afraid to stand up to those who want to bring you down to their level. Joshua 1:9, “Remember that I commanded you to be strong and brave. Do not be afraid because the Lord your God will be with you everywhere you go.” Look inside yourself, see the person you want to be, and make choices that person would make. Pretty soon you will notice you have been that Man or Woman all along. We are always stronger than we think we are. Concerning relationships, if we do not know what we are looking for, we will fall for anything remotely attractive in front of us. I am not talking about some 5-10 bullet point list. Get specific. Think deep. Write 5-6 pages of who you seek. Character traits, do they get angry easy, do they wink at every PYT that passes, or will they stare into your eyes when the waitress bends over next to them? What do they look like? And be realistic with their looks. One example, to me, it would not matter if she was a foot taller or shorter than me, as long as she is content with her height and mine. How will they treat you? How will they react when you make a mistake, or how will they react when they make a mistake (all of us will). Will they be honest about it, or try to hide from you. Will they forgive you your own shortcomings as well? I mean REALLY forgive you and not hold grudges to bring up later. If you cannot forgive, you will not be forgiven. If you do not know what you are REALLY looking for, it may walk right past you and you would have no idea. You may be too busy chasing Disney movie princes and princesses to find the REAL man or woman you search for.

           Finally, if you are holding onto something you should not be, you will not be able to move on. Whether it be past hurts, bad relationships, good relationships, or maybe your own mistakes crushing you under their weight, let it go. Find out what you are looking for. If you are blessed enough to already have that person in your life somewhere, maybe it is time to tell them. But you have to let go of your past. Do not regret it, do not repeat it. REMEMBER IT, LEARN FROM IT, move on to your future. Above all else, no matter who you want, whether they are someone from your past, or someone you haven’t met yet, BE THE ONE YOU SEEK!

Kisses

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             Every kiss is precious and powerful. Every kiss gives a piece of your soul. Do not waste your SOUL on people who only want to share your BODY. You will be chasing a broken HEART. Cherish your kisses, keep them for someone who looks into your heart and when you look in theirs, you see yourself in there.

Progress

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“Progress means getting nearer to the place you want to be. And if you have taken a wrong turning, then to go forward does not get you any nearer. If you are on the wrong road, progress means doing an about-turn and walking back to the right road; and in that case the man who turns back soonest is the most progressive man. We have all seen this when doing arithmetic. When I have started a sum the wrong way, the sooner I admit this and go back and start again, the faster I shall get on.” -C.S. Lewis

I would like to add something to this great writer and man of God’s words of incredible wisdom. Turning back to the right road also means leaving behind everything you found on the wrong road. Erasing the incorrect numbers in the equasion is the only way to come to the correct conclusion. Putting aside all the things you found while on the wrong road is the only way to finding your way back. Retracing your steps if you will. God is the ultimate guide in keeping you on the right path and in seeking His wisdom and guidance, you will find where you’re meant to be. He will not remove the obstacles for you, in fact He allows them to be there, but never too big to climb over or go around, with His help.

          When you come to a fork, dont listen to outside influences. This will always pull you down the wrong path. Let God be your compass and surround yourself with the ones you know only want the best for your life, through Him. No one is perfect, but in realizing we’re on the wrong road and turning back, we abandon all that led us astray and see which path to avoid in the future. I say these words to everyone who reads them and takes them to heart. Leave the past on the wrong path with whatever/whomever led you there and turn to God for the right one. And if your eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. Matt. 18:9.

With all the love I possess,

Andrew